Re-Evaluate Your Why, And Your Hard.

Over the last 18+ years of training, coaching, and working on myself, I’ve learned one thing very clearly: if you don’t know your why and understand your hard, you will always struggle to stay consistent. I’ve been there myself. I’ve had to stop, reassess, and make myself a priority again and I want to help you do the same.

Your Why

Why are you trying to improve your quality of life? Is it for your health, fitness, or aesthetics? Is it for your family and loved ones? Or is it, most importantly, for you? Your why has to come from within. You might say it’s for your kids, your partner, or your future self — but the truth is, unless you’re doing it for you, it won’t stick. When you miss a gym session, slip on your food tracking, or feel like skipping steps, remember your why.

Your Hard

Making yourself a priority is never easy. We all face a version of “hard”: hard might be dragging yourself to the gym when you’d rather crash on the sofa, hard might be saying no to a night out because you need the sleep, or hard might be facing the uncomfortable truth that you don’t feel good in your own skin.

For me, my “hard” wasn’t the run itself — it was hating the fact I didn’t do it. At one point I avoided social events because nothing felt good to wear. I was exhausted, low on energy, and stuck in a cycle of excuses. That was my real hard. Now, my hard is different: I’m tired because I’ve worked hard, fuelled properly, and shown up for myself. That exhaustion feels satisfying, because I know why I’m doing it.

Choices and Balance

Here’s the thing: every choice you make either moves you closer to or further from your goals. Want pizza and wine on a Friday night? That’s fine — but own it. Be happy with that choice and know it may slow progress. Want faster results? That’s fine too — but then it takes discipline. Maybe you get up an hour earlier, hit the gym before work, and fuel with a high-protein breakfast. Neither is wrong. But you can’t have both extremes and expect consistent results.

Why People Fall Off

Most people fail not because the training or nutrition plan doesn’t work, but because their why isn’t strong enough, they expect short-term results from a long-term process, or they don’t accept that habits take time. Often weeks 4–8 feel toughest, but 8–12 bring the biggest changes. This is why I tell clients: I can give you the tools, but you have to drive the car.

My Own Reset

After my family holiday, I had to reset. I put myself back on the list. Mum, nana, coach — but also me. It hasn’t been easy. Some habits had slipped over three years. But 13 weeks in, even when motivation dips, the habits I’ve built carry me through. One off day doesn’t undo everything — it just means the next day is a chance to get back on track.

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Your Commitment

Ask yourself honestly: what does happiness look like to you? What are you willing to sacrifice — temporarily — to achieve it? Are you prepared to put in the work, even when it’s not glamorous? Because no one cares as much about how you look or feel as you do. And no one can do the work for you. If your why is strong enough, and you accept your hard, you can break the cycle. Habits will form, balance will come, and the load will feel lighter over time.

Final note: Don’t chase sexy quick fixes. Chase the life you actually want. Do it for you, not for me, not for anyone else.

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